Lost The Point Entirely!

Oh dear, Ruth. Is that little project on LinkedIn the best you can do? You managed to twist things around entirely! I'm not preventing YOU from telling your side of the story at all. In fact, I hope you decide to do so in a reasoned, civilized manner. I won't even attempt to have any book YOU might decide to publish discontinued, nor will I whine to Wordpress about your rantings in an attempt to have your ravings shut down. You have every right to show the world how much class, or lack thereof, you have. You, however, have trampled on your sister's right to tell her story AS SHE SEES IT. Why is it that you're so confrontational and angry? The only reason I can come up with is paranoia. Don't you realize that the more you protest, the more you appear to be trying to cover up something? So that leads me, and any other reader of your so called "blog", to wonder what is so terrible in your past that you have to fight so hard to hide it. I won't even request you to remove that twisted little project you have on LinkedIn. It merely shows what a sad, bitter little person you are. Please, for your own sake, get some professional help so that you can find some peace.

A New Threat

"this is going to look good in a police report Brian – keep that in mind. FOR THE RECORD: I, RUTH B. PACE, HAVE NEVER MET BRIAN T. MALONEY IN MY LIFE. I NEVER HEARD OF HIM UNTIL THE SUMMER OF 2012. BRIAN T. MALONEY, AT THE REQUEST OF JOAN WHEELER, STARTED CYBERSTALKING AND CYBERHARASSING ME AND MY SISTER GERT MCQUEEN IN DECEMBER 2011. USING DIFFEREN SCREENNAMES OF PILGRIM 1013 AND CHAMP. HE ALSO STARTED A BLOG IN WHICH HE HAS BEEN CALLING US NAMES AND BERATING US. I HAVE TAKEN SCREENSHOTS OF HIS CYBER ABUSE AND POSTED ONLY SOME OF THEM ON THIS BLOG.  WE HAVE REPEATEDLY ASKED AND DIRECTED BRIAN T. MALONEY TO LEAVE US ALONE – HE REFUSES. HE LEAVES ME NO CHOICE – I WILL DO WHAT I MUST TO GET THIS CYBER-BULLY OUT OF MY LIFE. – I HAVE ALREADY TAKEN ONE STEP THE OTHER DAY.
YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED BRIAN -"
Here's another example of how cyberbullying works. Threats and misrepresentations are the weapons of desperation. Also, Joan's name has been used as the author of 2 blogs which do not belong in any way to her. I wonder who is responsible for that?
Joan has repeatedly asked her two sisters to leave her alone, and they have refused to do so. Why should they expect treatment that is any different than what they are willing to extend from others?
I'll give the credit for the initial quote here to one of Joan's sisters, and I'll answer her that it's quid pro quo. I don't WANT to be involved in this, but I also don't want to see a friend of mine abused. So here's the offer. Remove your blog and get out of Joan's life and I'll be more than happy to shut my blog down and you'll never hear from me again. I think that's a pretty fair deal.
Please, for your own sake, take the time to seek the help you need!
Peace to you.

Let's set the record straight

And the nonsense continues. I don’t normally read the silliness posted on either Ruthie’s or Gertie’s  so called “blogs”, but there were a few things that were brought to my attention. I should probably set the record straight.

First, I actually AM a Reiki practitioner, and I have the greatest respect for the Reiki principles, one of which states. “I will be kind to people and all living things.” If you have read my posts, I have often urged these two tormented women to seek the help they need in order to find some measure of peace in their lives. They have obviously not done so, and are in denial that they need counseling. As far as one of them being a Reiki practitioner goes, I would ask how she reconciles her behavior with the principle I mentioned. I might also mention that being a Reiki practitioner is NOT my occupation, and I have never asked for or accepted any monetary payment from treating anyone. I feel that if someone requests a treatment, they have enough to deal with without having to worry about financial considerations. Sure sounds like I abuse and bully people, doesn’t it? 

Now on to point 2. Desperation shows when my family, who has nothing to do with either of these people, is brought up. I cite the statement that my sister is a teacher. She, in fact, is not. Was that a mistake on the poster’s part, or was it a deliberate lie? One can only wonder. And why was my sister brought up in the first place? The only conclusion can be that the poster is a stalker, and is willing to go to any length to try to discredit me. How long will it be before my sister is attacked and harassed?

Point 3. There was a review of my EX-WIFE’S liquor store that was rather uncomplimentary. Now the attack falls on HER and does not address any issue the poster has with ME. Now she’s trying to ruin the reputation of a totally innocent and uninvolved party. Again, I would ask the question of whether the poster was aware of the fact that I am in no way associated with the store, or is this yet another example of how she’ll lie in order to try to destroy someone’s reputation.

Point 4. I have never been in the real estate business. Another mistake or lie?

Point 5. I never denigrated nurse’s aids. They are an important and necessary part of any medical facility, and I actually hold them in high esteem. I just questioned the reason why, in 30 some years, there has been no inclination to take advantage of some of the opportunities which must have presented themselves in order to seek advancement.

Point 6. I am not now, nor was I ever, an abuser. Outside of their own paranoia, I challenge either one of them to bring forth the name of anyone, male or female, who was abused or bullied by me. If someone wants to see abuse, however, I have only to refer them to the postings of my accusers. They will find both stalking AND abuse in both “blogs”. As far as me being a bully goes, if suggesting that they seek help in order to find some measure of peace and happiness in their heretofore sad little lives is bullying, then I guess I’m guilty. If you want to see what bullying REALLY is, just read their “blogs”. You’ll find nothing BUT bullying there. I would say that their concept of bullying is that anyone who disagrees with them is a bully and wrong. When someone DOES present a differing point of view, they whine about it. I guess they can dish it out o.k., and don’t mind trampling on other’s rights to free speech, but they can’t take it, even when it’s not happening to them. Interesting, no? Paranoia perhaps? The world isn’t out to get you two, and neither am I. I haven’t gone out and tried to find out what you do, who you know, or what misfortunes you’ve encountered. Yet you two have tried to do that to me, and in the process, have gotten much of it wrong. Aren’t you tired of embarrassing yourselves yet, or are you deliberately lying?   

  

I have at no time resorted to name-calling or foul language. The only purpose for this blog is to try to stop the viciousness toward a friend who is desperately trying to sever relations with her persecutors so that she can find some peace in her life.

Due to the mistakes or outright lies I have countered here, stop and wonder how much of the postings of these two tormented souls is in any way accurate.

Once again, I can only wish them peace in their lives.   

Back again.

Sorry for my absence, but I don't visit here often. I have to say that I do miss reading the rather amusing comments. They show me how ignorance, stupidity, and egomania can degenerate into pure spiteful viciousness. Do you REALLY think anyone cares about you other than yourselves? If so, just remember that it was YOU who identified yourselves. Such egos!
How many times must you be told that the book was not about YOU but about how adoption   affects not only the adoptee, but the entire family? And you claim that you can identify yourselves in the book. Hmmm. That can ONLY mean that what Joan writes MUST be true and accurate. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be able to identify yourselves.
You seem to delight in trying to destroy Joan’s reputation. You must have more education in psychology and social work than she has, so invite you to present your professional credentials, or at least present to the world any degrees from an institution of higher learning so that I can give credence to what you write.
You also go on and on about your rights to say whatever you want, but you would deny Joan the right to do the same. How hypocritical! And to put the frosting on the cake, your entire family criticized Joan for having an African-American boyfriend in college. Funny how that turned out, isn’t it?
You seem unable to counter anything I post effectively, so you resort to name calling! I’m a scum bag? I don’t have to resort to that kind of childish nonsense, but I will point out that it takes one to know one.
Most people want peace in their lives, but you’ll never know that as long as you keep stoking the fires of hate and resentment. Sooner or later that will destroy you. You are already mentally unbalanced, and your continued nonsense after 30 years proves that. Of course you want to destroy Joan. She’s the only one of you who has tried to improve and educate herself. You have been content with the menial jobs you have had and still have, and have shown no signs of even considering advancing or educating yourselves. I’ll give credit to you both, though. At least you were able to hold some kind of job.
I’ll check in from time to time to see if you’ve posted any more silliness. Till then, I hope you can somehow find peace. If you give it a try, you might find that life could be more pleasant!  

HOW ELOQUENT!

Your use of crude language is exceeded only by your cruelty and total disregard of the feelings of others. Answer this question. What have either of you done to try to understand why Joan feels the way she does about adoption? Oh! That's right. Nothing! What have you investigated about the psychology of adoption from the point of view of an adoptee? Oh! Again, nothing. Please feel free to present your professional credentials in either psychology, social work, or a related field, and perhaps then you'll have something worthwhile to discuss. In some instances, ignorance can be excused. Willful ignorance, of which you two are guilty, can NEVER be excused. You're whining because I'm giving you the same kind of treatment you've been dishing out to Joan for years, and you're finding it rather uncomfortable. Well, when you stop, so will I. I've BEEN defending Joan, and you're feeling that I'm attacking YOU!
The only reason you destroyed Joan's book is because it showed you for what you truely are, and you couldn't stand the fact that if someone were to read it, you would be exposed for that. Truth hurts, doesn't it?
Why don't you two try to do something constructive with your lives instead of trying to destroy your own sister? Your actions put you in the same category as the nice folks who burned the books in Germany back around World War 2. Ah! But you're proud of that, because it's posted on one of your blogs!
For cying out loud, stop with the "ME! ME! ME!" attitudes. The book wasn't written about you, but about the issues concerning adoption. And anyone reading your blog or your comments here will understand all the wonderful issues adoption can entail a little better. The sooner you realize you're only giving credance to Joan's arguements, the better off you'll be. Keep it up, you two. You're only proving that Joan has reasons for feeling the way she does.
By the way, it was Joan's ex who went through the money by spending it on a scheme which didn't work, and which she had no part of. You want the money back? I suggest you talk to him!

A Response to Ignorance and Stupidity

Ok. I admit I didn’t use spell check. And no, I never claimed to be perfect. But, if I may quote you, you state, “most people, when they present themselves in a written matter who like to show that they are NOT ignorant… But Champ wants us to believe that he is far more stupider than Joan.” Trudie, Trudie, Trudie! You’re so angry you’ve become incoherent! The first part of the quote is incomplete, making no point whatsoever. But then again, you’ve written an entire blog that reflects that style, haven’t you? And “more stupider” is just plain wrong. It should have been either “More stupid” or “stupider”. I may not have used spell check, but you could most assuredly benefit from a remedial English class.

It’s amusing also that you still believe that I’m Joan. In that, as in most of the pathetic claptrap you call a blog, you’re dead wrong. But, as you continue to wallow in your ignorance, and continue to deny that there are real issues, you, in your megalomania, don’t see that you’re helping to illustrate the exact points that Joan is making! She actually couldn’t ask for a better, real life example of exactly what kind of havoc adoption can wreak on EVERYONE involved. The fact of the matter is that Joan has sought, and is still receiving assistance with her issues. You don’t even acknowledge you have you own issues, let alone have made any attempt whatsoever to resolve them. The fact is, you and your sisters are in denial.

Your refusal to meet with me comes as no surprise. It simply shows you for the bullies and cowards you are! I hope you’re proud of yourselves. I’m sure no one else is!

Newsflash!

Well, believe it or not, my invitation to meet was not acknowedged in any way. This is an admission on the part of the sisters that they KNOW BEYOND A DOUBT that I am NOT Joan Wheeler, and they're too egotistical to admit it, too cowardly to meet with me, and/or too ignorant to engage in any form of rational communication. If they can't spew hate, they can't imagine what other form of communication, ( such as a civil discussion ), might be available to them.

Let me explain that the loss of a parent leaves it's mark on children, and they have to find, or be given, a way in which to effectively deal with their loss. Of the four sisters and one brother, Joan is the only one who has sought that assistance. The brother is deceased, but the sisters have had unresolved issues, and not one of the three who are persecuting Joan has sought that help. Their loss is still a festering wound, and it has turned into an emotional cancer. All they are able to do at this point is to spew the poison out at a seemingly defenseless target.

Joan has offered to discuss the issues involved with being adopted with members of both her families. Not one of them has shown any interest in the way she feels or the affect adoption has had on her. They persecute her from their total callousness and ignorance, with the attitude that since THEY'RE not adopted, it's not important. With them, it's all "ME, ME, ME, and the hell with how anyone else, ESPECIALLY our own sister, feels."

They also claim Joan doesn't work. Isn't being a published author legitimate work? Yet they destroy the work Joan does produce. They also write their boring, vapid, whining blogs falsely defaming her, then criticize her for being disabled and not holding a "REAL job." And these are the kind of people you want to follow? These are the kind of people with whom you would be associated, or on whom you would rely for factual information? Just reflect on the fact that you're known by the compay you keep. And remember that if you actually can get through the trash the sisters are writing without getting bored to death or throwing up, there are two sides to every story. I suggest you take a look at Joan's side before you make up you mind.